Dangerous Signs of Co-dependent relationship
Co-dependency is extreme form of self-sacrifice for the sake of the other person. Over time, this self-sacrifice suffocates you enough where separation becomes the easiest way out.
And just in case you decide to stay in the marriage for the sake of your children or for the sake of your parents, it starts to impact your physical health as well, not to mention the disastrous consequences it has on your children.
Here are 7 warning signs of a co-dependent relationship
1. You give up what you really want; to please your partner
You keep your partner’s needs and desires above your own. This goes to such an extent that over time, you start getting drained out physically and mentally. And because you keep his needs as a priority, he begins to believe that your desires are not important and all that matters is what he wants. He does not see you as his romantic partner anymore.
2. You do more than your share in the relationship
You tend to do a lot more work than your husband. Either the work is not divided and you take the responsibility for everything or there could be a scenario where the work is divided, yet you tend to do his share of work also to impress him and be known as “good wife.”
If your husband is manipulative and makes you do all the work, then also it’s co-dependence.
3. You feel suffocated everyday but unable to leave
Even though you do not get anything out of your relationship, you are scared to leave because you tend to think about your parents or your children. You believe your parents will be stressed and your children need their father. You get trapped with your husband on one side and your children/parents on the other. And then in your prayers you expect the magic to happen! But it does not happen because your mind is now so cluttered that it does not know what the right path is.
4. You have reached the stage in your relationship that you can’t even draw your boundaries
You have come to the extent in your relationship that it appears that drawing the boundaries at this stage might create more distance to the extent of losing your husband, so you are allowing yourself to be taken for granted in order to keep the relationship going.
5. You are gripped by the fear that your partner might abandon you
In co-dependent relationship, even when there is little bit of fight or an argument, you fear that you might lose your partner. The fear is so strong that you tend to panic and go out of the way to ensure that he is there with you.
6. You find it difficult to say ‘No’ to your partner
There might be so many times when you wish to say ‘No’ to your partner but you are unable to gather your guts to say it. You fear the consequences of saying ‘No’. By saying yes, all the time, you tend to protect yourself from the consequences but deep within you are rebelling.
7. You cover up your husband’s alcoholism or any other kind of addiction like porn, gambling
This is once again the scenario where you are trying to justify to yourself his unacceptable behavior because you do not know how else to respond to it or yth
Did you identify if you are in a co-dependent relationship or may be getting there?
If yes, it’s time for you to draw lines. If you are already deep into it, you need to contact a professional to help you.
We, at Aahaamarriedlife will also be happy to help you have a healthy and loving relationship with your husband. All you need to do is to book your call at the link below and we will get in touch with you for the way forward.
Take care and remember that you can create the life you want and you are just one decision away from it.
